I remember jetting once from Sacramento to Seattle, daydreaming over a sea of clouds, when the waves of whirling mist crashed abruptly on what appeared to be mountainous islands just outside the window. They were the peaks of the Cascades, violently replacing my tranquil fantasy with the rocky reality of a not so vacant treacherous sky.
That might be how some bosses feel; working so hard to climb to the top and not always knowing what perilous step will bring them falling from grace. But as much as managers can feel like castaways sequestered to far off mounts, no one is an island – especially not in an organization. Even the most subtle of emotional expression affects those below.
As someone wise once told me, “Shit flows downhill”. Imagine life as a stream, each of us bucketing out a small amount of social interaction and emotional support to survive, dumping back our psychological waste. Anything we throw in that flow affects the person downstream. And, if it’s a harsh word or nasty look, it washes over them without escape.
Of course they try to throw it back but often only with a little waste of their own, in turn affecting those further downstream. And while the strongest among us absorb it, ignore it, change it into something else, those of such emotional awareness and maturity are rare. Instead the pollution in the stream grows and affects more the further it flows.
These overly colorful analogies illustrate why I think it’s so important that people learn how they affect others; how to constructively deal with their feelings, particularly on the job, specifically if they’re the boss. The little that those at the top contribute to any mess has a tendency to clog the system with not only their own waste but that of their affected subordinates.
(Thanks to one of my Facebook followers for sending the above photo to me.)
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